I just discovered your blog last week and spent several hours going back to the beginning. Your writing is captivating. I feel like I know you and want to get to know you better!
But I am very concerned with this behavior. Really. I don't know you and you don't know me, but I'd think about continuing to stay with him under these circumstances. No, I don't know everything (only what you've written), but I have so many friends who have been abused (and this is abuse, no matter what you or he chooses to call it). You really don't have to sit there and take it. Your mission agency can go screw themselves if they think this is acceptable behavior. Pardon my French, but I have very little tolerance for agencies that refuse to deal with situations. Our agency has overlooked even worse situations with disastrous results, and I have no patience with that. They are not giving you the support and counseling you need. I don't know what is tying you to where you are (I know you're in some kind of in-between, limbo, state of being), but I'd seriously consider wanting to continue with an organization that treats you in this fashion.
Do you feel like he is using something you are afraid of to manipulate you, ie "keep you in line"? Like the fear of being "kicked out"? Would it be worth calling his bluff, so to speak? Not at all in a defiant, disrespectful way, of course, but out of a desire to see this situation be dealt with? This situation is abusive, I agree with the above comment...but very hard to know how to deal with, I'm sure. Anyway, just a thought...praying for you today!
I have felt similar to what M wrote when I first discovered your blog, and I still do. Like M wrote, I am concerned and my heart is heavy to see how you are not getting the support you need, more the opposite. So I have just kept praying for you since then but now want to add my voice to hers.
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Still praying!!!
I just discovered your blog last week and spent several hours going back to the beginning. Your writing is captivating. I feel like I know you and want to get to know you better!
But I am very concerned with this behavior. Really. I don't know you and you don't know me, but I'd think about continuing to stay with him under these circumstances. No, I don't know everything (only what you've written), but I have so many friends who have been abused (and this is abuse, no matter what you or he chooses to call it). You really don't have to sit there and take it. Your mission agency can go screw themselves if they think this is acceptable behavior. Pardon my French, but I have very little tolerance for agencies that refuse to deal with situations. Our agency has overlooked even worse situations with disastrous results, and I have no patience with that. They are not giving you the support and counseling you need. I don't know what is tying you to where you are (I know you're in some kind of in-between, limbo, state of being), but I'd seriously consider wanting to continue with an organization that treats you in this fashion.
Hugs and prayers.
M
My heart is heavy and in prayer for you.
Just wanted you to know that I'm praying for you!
Do you feel like he is using something you are afraid of to manipulate you, ie "keep you in line"? Like the fear of being "kicked out"? Would it be worth calling his bluff, so to speak? Not at all in a defiant, disrespectful way, of course, but out of a desire to see this situation be dealt with? This situation is abusive, I agree with the above comment...but very hard to know how to deal with, I'm sure. Anyway, just a thought...praying for you today!
I have felt similar to what M wrote when I first discovered your blog, and I still do.
Like M wrote, I am concerned and my heart is heavy to see how you are not getting the support you need, more the opposite. So I have just kept praying for you since then but now want to add my voice to hers.
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