I wonder what the possibilities would be
if we all had someone to believe in us.
To say, "Try, I'm sure you can!"
and, "Almost! Try again, you'll get it for sure!"
"Look how close you came, try again!"
and "Wow! Look how well you did it. I knew you could!"
What the possibilities would be
if we all had someone to believe in us
even when we don't believe in ourselves.
I picked up a new student today
He's actually one of "our team",
so he calls me "auntie".
I love this boy.
It's been hard to watch him struggle
as I could so easily step in.
But I waited.
To be asked.
So that the initiative came not from me, but from the parents.
I needed that to be successful.
Because, to be honest, sometimes some problems have different causes.
Some are the student, some are the school,
and some are the parents.
Some a mix of all three.
Not that parents don't care or are wrong.
It is just that not all parents are capable
especially working in a different system than what they were raised in.
It adds frustration.
Frustration with a learner rarely helps a learner learn.
Which adds more frustration.
Sometimes a change is needed.
So I waited. To be asked.
Now I pick up my kids and one more.
We come home, we eat a snack.
And in a calm, relaxed environment
with a friend from his class
we start on homework
my daughter and my nephew.
Encouraging each other.
Each have their strengths
Each their weaknesses.
We work together.
I smiled today to watch
what he could do with encouragement.
It confirmed my suspicions
that this was not only the child
who struggled with learning
but also the parents
who struggled with helping
in such a foreign environment.
Sometimes both parent and child
need a rest from each other.
To go back to enjoying each other
and not working through difficult things
until it colors the relationship.
I told the teacher that I will work on two things
One - the will to do his work
Two - the belief that he can
I believe that when he believes he can
The will to do will also be there.
So my first job, believing in him.
Not the fake belief of false praise.
But the real belief.
See here, what you did?
That is great! With a little more work, that will be really wonderful
And you can do that.
It takes some work and practice, but I know you can.
Today, I smiled to see him work.
To even redo a section
all over again
with a good attitude.
Such a good result.
He came in today with my daughter tattling on him
"The teachers were so impressed with his work!"
That glowing is quiet right now
Still deep inside of him.
I want it to shine from his face
The pride of a job well done and praise well earned.
A head held high
and confidence in the road ahead.
I believe it is possible.
Someone told me once
when I couldn't believe
that they will believe for me.
It confused me.
If they believe, then I have to work to prove them right.
I worked, until I, too, believed.
Today, I believe for this child
until he believes for himself.
What we all could be
if only someone believed in us!