I had insisted that whoever working with my husband months ago would require him to get a medical check up. There were things I was concerned about. I had to insist on this because I was dealing with people who did not really believe me. That sort of behavior really makes any counseling situation very difficult.
But, finally, he was asked to go to the doctor. I did not go with him. He was sent to a sleep lab since he has been having sleep issues for years. Really, it was since we first got married, that I noticed he would stop breathing in his sleep for a few seconds. Sleep apnea. He laughed that I was concerned, but it continued to bother me.
The sleep lab's report went to the doctor yesterday. The doctor phoned my husband. His sleep and wake patterns are so disrupted that they are deeply concerned. So concerned even that they have taken away his driver's license. He is too dangerous to drop off to sleep at any second and his reflexes are down.
For years, I have been nervous driving with him, and I stay alert and watch his eyes and talk to him. So nervous in the last year or two that he is upset and thinks something is wrong with me. But, his eyes half shut for long sessions and he is groggy. But he is a man. Men do not sleep and can drive.
At the same time, we all rely on driving. To not be able to is stunning. How do we deal with daily life? Who will pick up the kids when I work? How do we drive while we are home for the summer and have some long distance driving to do?
But, I'm proud of him. He took the news well and did not fight it.
But pray. It is a big, big change in out family routine, and we need to figure it out.