Ever have to deal with that person who appears nice.... but leaves a bad taste in your mouth? It is just the little comments, the sarcasm, the rudeness, the little digs. As time goes on, it wears on you. Yet if you respond, they would say, "what is the big deal?"
We have one. It is constant. Almost daily. Little things. Never (well, seldom), an outright meanness... just constant little things. E-mails to us, to others but cc'd to us... little jabs. If we don't do things just as this person likes when this person likes, there are those little comments.
How do you deal with that? I've thought of a few tactics, but not sure the value of them.
One is blunt honesty - "I do not appreciate this type of behavior. Please quit it."
Another is more passive - ignore all messages that contain rude and sarcastically rude comments. When questioned on why something wasn't done, state that you deleted the request because it was rude and are waiting for it to be stated politely and respectfully.
Keep enduring - until we get really irritated with it, and then end up snapping at each other because we are fed up trying to endure.
I am not sure what is the wise way to deal with it. I just know that I have almost had enough. It seems like it is this person's way of "encouraging" or "degrading" you into doing things when and how this person wants. It actually has the opposite effect - we want to do less and less for this person the way they want it done. Actually, we want nothing to do with this person and strive to be away from them as much as possible. You know - the type when you see their number show up, you let it go to voice mail.
sigh... wishing Christians were more perfect.... One day, heaven. In heaven, we will be. In little day to day things of working with difficult people, this also encourages me. One day, heaven.
Until then, any ideas?